4 Ways to Restore Your Curls After They Die

When it comes to my hair, I’ve always been free in experimenting with different cuts, colors, and styles.

When it comes to my hair, I’ve always been free in experimenting with different cuts, colors, and styles. I’m pretty much fearless; I’ve cut my hair when people told me not to, I’ve colored my hair on my own whenever I felt like it (even though I have a sister who is a hair stylist). I’ve been fearless and, for the most part, it’s worked out well for me.
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Right around the holidays I decided to color my hair using a brand from Walgreens. It was a decision made from pure boredom and things went completely wrong. My curl pattern changed drastically, and my hair became extremely dry and thin. The worst part was that this disaster happened hours before my friend’s baby shower.
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Before/After
After a few days in complete distress over my decision, my sister and friends gave me some helpful tips to get my curls back.
Step 1 – Accept What Is
I looked at myself in the mirror, cried, and reminded myself that its just hair, and it’ll grow back. Honestly, acceptance of my present situation helped me to become receptive to the helpful information that was given to me after. In the beginning, I was in denial and just wanted someone to magically make things better. The more I realized that the curls weren’t coming back on their own, the more frustrated I got.
Step 2 – Trim and Protein Treatment
I woke up the next day, after crying most of the night, and called my barber to schedule a cut ASAP. He took about an inch off, and then I ran to the nearest hair supply store for a protein treatment. My friend recommended the Two-Step Protein Treatment by ApHogee.
After washing my hair, I applied the treatment and sat under the dryer. When the treatment is dried into the hair, the hair becomes extremely hard, so do not comb hair. Once my air was dry, I rinsed the treatment out with warm water, and then applied a balancing moisturizer, left it in for a few minutes, then rinsed the moisturizer out.
I remember stepping out of the shower super nervous. I looked in the mirror and my curls were back. Not as defined or full as before, but they were back.
Step 3 – Leave-in-Conditioner
I applied Cantu Argan Oil Leave-in Conditioner,  like I usually do after each wash, to seal in moisture that I knew my hair was lacking. This stuff just works for me and my hair loves it.
Step 4 – Protective Style
I spent a few days rocking my hair in big braids under my head wrap until I was able to get some box braids. At this point I think my hair was probably more drained than I was. I rocked braids for about three months and when I took them out, the amount of recovery my hair experienced impressed me.
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Sneakers: ASICS, Jeans: Fashion Nova, Coat: Vintage, Top: Jcrew
Honestly, I don’t think I’ll color my hair for a long time, especially not on my own. So if you see me, and you wonder what happened to that big, awesome, curly fro I once had, just remember that the summer’s near, and that afro is set to make a huge comeback.

Dressing These Curves

Hey, I’ve come to the realization that I’m not a size 4-6 anymore. These days I’m more focused on how I feel, than what the scale says. No truly (seriously?)! I know most woman say this but don’t really mean it. Honestly, weight has always been a touchy subject for me. Growing up I was always the skinny girl. I hated when people told me I was skinny, especially when I did my best to put on weight.

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Dress by London Times

Boooobsss … yes I said it; you can’t miss them when you see me coming.

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If you’re anything like me, finding the right dress can be challenging. Do like I did in these pictures, go find you a flattering wrap dress. They look great on curvy woman and on other body shapes. Like I tell my clients, don’t be afraid of color! Find a wrap dress that matches your eye color or skin tone. When it comes to accessorizing, less is more. If you rock big hair like me, or long straight hair, simple stud earrings and a nondescript medium size clutch will do.

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I’m a true Cancer so I dress according to my mood. A little tip I use to put me in the best mood before heading out; do your hair and makeup first, then get dressed. If you need to get dressed first to avoid getting makeup on your clothes, cover yourself up with a robe, then ditch it for the final reveal. This way you look much better when stepping into your dress. You’ve concealed all those dark circles, acne scars, and your hair is lying just like you want it (or close to how you want it at least). You’ll have less to nag about and your significant other will thank you for being on time.

Winter Town

How sweet are our 2017 family holiday pictures?!

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Black Faux Shearling Coat by Blank NYC
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Dad’s Blue Down Printed Jacket by Ralph Lauren
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Babies Red Hat and Coat by Old Navy

In 2016, I totally forgot to plan a family shoot in the midst of all the traveling and holiday fun. My son got the traditional Sears pictures taken in a Santa suit, but sadly we dropped the ball on family pics.

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The temperature was getting close to freezing as the sun went down and my boys froze their butts off just to make mom happy. I’m a lucky gal.

Shot by my friend www.jenniferrosekeany.com at Pond Meadow Park in Braintree, Massachusetts.

What was your first memory of your mom?

 

Mine was in Brooklyn, New York in the early 80s.

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I was about two-and-a-half to three years old. We just arrived to the States from Haiti. It was our first hot summer in NYC and we lived in a basement apartment with my grandfather and great grandmother, who wasn’t the nicest woman, especially to my mom. My mom was in her early twenties, scared I’m guessing, no job, and no idea how things would turn out for us. My dad was always working so we barely saw him.

What felt like every morning, my mom would sit out back (in this concrete garden where flowers never grew) and cry. I used to pull her face into mine, dry her tears, and kiss her all the time just to stop her from crying.

Years later, things are way better, but I guess I’ve never really forgotten those moments in the garden or the tears rolling down my mom’s face. Now that I’m a mom, I constantly worry about what my son’s first memories will be of me. So, I make it a point to smile a lot and protect the space my family is in so hopefully he has better early memories than I did.

 

 

Christmas Gift Guide For Your Homegirl

What to buy for your best friend? Hey, she spent the year making you laugh, and listening to your crazy ideas and problems, I think she deserves something special.

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So here’s a list of some awesome gift ideas for her under $50 (giving gifts makes me happy but sticking to my budget makes me happier).

  1. Rocabella Tassel Earrings $36
  2. Paint The Town Lip Set $24
  3. Marshmallow Out USB Foot Warmers $39
  4. Retablo Candles $28
  5. Curiosity (with Wood Mount frame) $38.99
  6. R29 Editor Pick Pointed Toe Booties $34.95
  7. Sara Pocket Shopper Bag $24
  8. Almond Cookie Gift Set $18.00
  9. Whitaker Reversible Throw $39
  10. Cut and Sew Jumper Dress $45

Grab a cute gift box, or some fun wrapping paper, and some printed ribbon to surely make your gift a hit. Happy Holidays!